Join the Dream Team in committing to pray for #Pause2016 in just 5 minutes a day.
Yes, you read that right. 5 minutes spent in prayer for this Annual Statewide Conference can change lives forever. Not just for the woman who attends, but for her family, her workplace, her church and even her future.
The moment I sat in the conference I was able to let down and release emotions that I had been holding in. I was able to laugh- really laugh- hard. I was able to cry and not be strong for anyone. I was able to see my husband and our relationship different. I was able to hear that the issues I was having with my children would pass. I was strengthened realizing I was not the only one in my situation. I discovered new ways to handle finances. I experienced the joy of meeting goals. I had dreams deposited in my heart. Many ah-ha moments I took away that helped me in the months that followed. These are the reasons why I take time and invest in myself each year to spend it with my tribe-Women.
So why do I put off my own self-care as a woman? I’ve found that through the years when a women’s conference is offered that promises to refresh and energize me, I wait till the last-minute to make a decision to attend and register. As well as make my hotel, ground and air transportation. Through the many seasons of our lives we tend to pour out our entire beings to our children, our partners and/or our jobs. If an opportunity came for our children that would encourage or enlarge their ability to improve their lives, we would sign them up right away. Often times we wouldn’t even care how much it costs. But when it comes to investing in ourselves, we dilly-dally, make excuses, and procrastinate. At the moment I boarded the plane I realized for the next 72 hours, I would be alone with myself (my real self-the one without titles or responsbilities), and others who were busy doing the same life as me.
It was at these conferences that God spoke clearly and concisely to me about the future of my spouse, my children and/or my career. After the first session, I reflected again-why does it take me so long to commit to investing in myself? I would then promise myself that the next time I would sign up right away. Well let me speak into your life now-you’re worth it! Invest in yourself, so that you can keep giving and going. The money you spend on yourself will return back to you in ways you cannot count. So like the song goes, “Oh Baby-You’re Worth It!”
Ala Moana Room Block ends 8/22/16 for Pause for the Cause 2016
Wait a minute. Take a breath. Reflect. Think about it. That’s what comes to my mind when I hear the word “pause”.
However, in my real life world, of go-go-go, it’s something I rarely do. Until the beginning of this year. Suddenly my whole life came to a pause, when my husband became very sick with a staph infection. His illness immobilized him due to the infection becomimg seeded in his spine which came through an open wound on his foot. What started out as excitement to undergo cataract surgery, became his admitance to the Emergency Room. He became hospitalized (7 days), then transferred to a skilled nursing facility (30 days), and then finally home to “Lani’s Home Health Care” (60 days). My very active life, filled with roles and responisbilities came to a screeching halt. To me it felt like I gave birth to a newborn. My entire focus had to be on taking care of him in every way that we take for granted daily.
At first it felt like I had died. I didn’t know how to pause-sit still, and reflect, and I found myself not breathing. The stress of the unknown’s began to fill my mind and heart. It was very touch and go at some points as the staph infection compromised many of his body’s operating systems. I don’t wish that kind of pause on anyone.
However, in the days that passed, I found it comforting that each day I could spend more time with God reading my Bible, pondering on his promises to me and worshipping him. I became challenged in my thoughts, having time to think if what I preach is what I believe. I do! Little did I know that this time of suffering through illness, lead us to our most intitmate moments with our Creator.
In hindsight I offer this nugget of wisdom. Don’t wait for circumstances to happen to you to take a pause in your life. Practice the presence of God daily. Pause and let him speak to you about your future. I find that writing my thoughts and prayers to God in a journal, and then waiting to hear what he says to me, then recording his message from pen to paper does wonders for those uncertain times in your life. He is waiting for you to come into his presence, experience his power, and see his provision.
Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
I’ve just started two new things in my life. I believe they will improve my quality of life and also help to become more sustainable. Those two things are juicing and composting. My goal is to help reduce the trash filling up our landfills, grow my own food, and feel better while doing both. I welcome you to join me on the journey.
In the following weeks I’ll be posting my journey here and welcome your thoughts and comments too. Subscribe to this blog and check back often for ideas and tips. Together we can create a beautiful life.
Sitting here this morning, after looking at my Facebook page, I am thanking God for my full life. Who ever said being a Christian was boring must not have been plugged into loving, and serving him fully.
I have found that when you do Matthew 6:33, “Seek first the kingdom of God…” you always will have a full life. What is the Kingdom of God about you may ask? The Kingdom of God is about PEOPLE. Loving people. Serving people. Giving to people. When we all leave this earth the only thing that will leave a lasting impression is the people-the relationships- we were in.
I know you may be thinking, but I don’t like people. I can relate to that. At one time I too didn’t like people, and do you know what I found? I didn’t love myself. You can’t give what you don’t have. You can’t love people if you don’t love yourself. Jesus said the whole Bible hangs on these two commandments; “Love the Lord your God and love your neighbor as you love yourself.“
The reason we don’t love ourselves is because we don’t really know who we are. We don’t know what our idendity is or our purpose here on earth. Living a self-centered life can get old fast, and needless to say lonely. So, love yourself, love your people and the love of God will overflow into your life-and your life will never be boring.